I’m stealing my friend Betsy McMillan’s title because she posted a thought-provoking entry on The Fractured Anecdote.
“Comfortable?” offers lessons we all need. Regarding change at work, I was reminded of the howls when our newsroom upgraded computer systems. My boss observed that reporters deal with the new and different every day. We all wanted the comfort of same desk configuration, same screen, same keystrokes. Of course the equipment came in, and the change did eventually make our jobs easier. Unlike Betsy’s example, the new system made sense.
Betsy truly defines Renaissance woman. She rivals my mother in this regard. Besides working full time and writing, she was primary caretaker for her mother for years. She cooks and bakes and makes wine to rival $180 bottles from the Valpolicella region of Italy. She catered her daughter’s wedding, which required not only prodigious amounts of cooking but organizing set up, delivery, etc., etc. She sings, performing solos at Easter and Christmas, and lending her pure tones to folk music. She offers moral and emotional support to family members and co-workers in distress. Even though my areas of expertise are more limited, like her, I have a list that would take me to age 200 or more to accomplish.
The message is: embrace change. Absolutely. I recently heard a wise person quote a wiser person: “When you are going through hell, keep going.” And I’ve found that while you’re going, if you ask what lesson you are supposed to learn, hell often becomes, if not heaven, a totally manageable situation. “Comfortable?” actually delivers this message better, too.
I KNOW Betsy is in the midst of something that will bring her closer to one or more of her goals.
If you haven’t yet done so, you need to buy and read The Fractured Anecdote – odiferous cooking is worth the price of admission. Also buy and pass along her latest, A Mystery in the Mailbox. Instead of buckets of ice water, ALS funders (and cancer funders) should be gently handing copies of this book to anyone who cares about people with chronic, terminal illnesses. It is far more compassionate and helps donor and recipient.